This bitch helped me burn my dress.
I really should say she burned that dang thing.
I couldn’t set it on fire myself.
I think it was my subconscious mind or my broken heart that still wanted him to choose me. At any rate, as I kept half heartly, to her encouragement, I attempted to light my dress on fire. She boldly and excitedly marched right over to me, took the hand-held light, and without any struggle sent fourteen years up in smoke. As I tried to convince myself this is exactly what I wanted, she was right there consoling me. “Miko you did the right thing. You don’t want to be with anyone like him. He is a monster!” As I stared at the smoke, my response to her was “Girl, hell-naw…I don’t want his ass.”
Love is the essence of companionship and when hurt, disappointment, and pain are the results of love, it's hard to be you. This book will heal the soul of the reader that reads it from cover to cover. It has been hard to write and even emotional at times. The unexpectedness of life's journey, bears the reason for this story. Sharing my soul in hopes to offer a road map with clarity, strength, and compassion is the ultimate purpose. Cuff and Bound is more than the title. It's the calling of your soul to get up!
Why I Wrote This Book
Getting to the otherside of healed.
When I first started writing this book, I wrote with the intention of being heard and understood. I wanted to have my final word not with a phone call, but with a bull horn. As I continued to write, I realized I was being called to write this book. It was no longer about having the final word but offering you the reader a look inside of how we get in our own way. Finding your way after a divorce, or a breakup is the heart of Cuffed and Bound, and I could feel as I was writing, this would become a movement.
Here lies the blueprint of how to get uncuffed and unbound when things fall apart financially, emotionally, and spiritually. The most important discovery I realized is that I became disconnected from myself and I had to work through everything I did to lose me.
Not everyone knows where to start or how to get to the magical three words that Mary J. uses in most of her interviews and your girlfriends tell you when you come to her with a story like this: “you need self-love.” Writing Cuffed and Bound, became my point of reference, and forced me to evaluate me, with a self-check.
To see the patterns that kept me stuck in the cycle of repeatedly being hurt, was the truth I needed to break the hold this particular relationship had on me. I wanted what we all desire; to be loved and understood. Having a second chance to love and be a family with my husband was the life I envisioned when I took those vows on my wedding day.
This book provided the visual picture for the blind spots in my own path of life. Now I hope you too will find you are not alone in your journey. This book will light the pathway back to you … let’s get uncuffed and unbound together.